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Most success in life is a result of determined desire. Payments and rewards have their place. Though they pale in comparison to the satisfaction of achieving dreams. Yagottawanna!

Gavin will enjoy his first Court of Honor this month. He has earned the Tenderfoot ranking. I think those are the words. He has worked hard to earn this award. I’m proud of him and he is proud of himself.

On Monday he went to his piano lesson. He rides his scooter there since it’s faster than driving. An hour later I started worrying that he wasn’t home yet. It had been a while since he stayed late to goof off with his teacher and siblings. Dinner was almost ready. I had timed it so we could eat as soon as Gavin got home. But he wasn’t home and I was getting nervous.

Heath had left that morning for a business trip in the depths of icy hell. More on that later. The first day is always the hardest for me so I was extra panicky that Gavin was so late. I texted Heath and called Adam’s house. There was no answer at their house which only fueled my anxiety. Heath hadn’t responded yet. I knew he had landed in Minneapolis so he should have been free to talk. I called him but there was no answer. Where are all the people?

Several more minutes passed and Heath finally texted that Gavin may be working on scout stuff with Adam’s dad Robert, who happens to be Gavin’s scout leader. Then Heath said he reached Robert via text. They were almost done with scout stuff.

The three of us ate without Gavin. After we finished Gavin walked through the front door. A whole 90 minutes after I sent him out the door for a half hour piano lesson. I was so relieved he was home but I had to let my emotions out somehow. I hugged him and said, “Next time call me! Don’t make your mother worry!”

It paid off. The next day Robert called to tell me that Gavin needed to set up his own Board of Review. He had tried to do it for the boys but was chastised for his charity. I wanted to roll my eyes that it took so many middle men just to set up the next step. But I appreciated the lessons Gavin needed to learn by doing it himself.

Gavin called and said he had his Scout Master Conference and was ready for his Board of Review. It was set up for the next night when he had his regular scout meeting. He passed with flying colors. Robert called that night to tell me.

Robert: Congratulations Mom!
Me: I had nothing to do with it. That was all Gavin.
Robert: Oh … well, good for him!

Heath and I decided before we had kids that we would expect our kids to do these types of things on their own. We knew too many parents who wanted their kids to earn their Eagle Scout or Young Women’s Medallion before they could get a driver’s license. What could those awards mean to the kids who had a driver’s license held over their heads?

Then again, what do I know? I didn’t earn my Young Women’s Medallion and Heath didn’t earn his Eagle Scout. We both blame moving. Deep down we both realize it wasn’t up to our leaders to encourage us. It wasn’t our parents’ fault for making us move. We didn’t want it badly enough to finish what we started.

It could be argued that yagottawanna still applies. The kids want driving privileges so they achieve great things. I just think people get what they expect. If all you want is a driver’s license then that’s all the award will mean. I heard a talk recently where the speaker talked about reading the Book of Mormon for the first time. He read for the rewards in Seminary. And that’s all he got out of the experience. Stickers on a chart.

Maybe Gavin had a fire lit under him when he didn’t earn his Arrow of Light. I don’t know. All I know is he cares about scouts now that he’s not a Cub Scout anymore. He came home from his Board of Review and said he wanted to earn the next award before he turns 12. He showed me that he’s already passed off several requirements. I love that he’s already set goals for himself.

Awards and recognition are nice. They look good on a resume. But they are even more meaningful when they were sought after and achieved through hard work and perseverance. I refuse to be the mother who is congratulated for her son’s Eagle Scout Award.

I’m so proud of Gavin for how much he has matured this school year. He is recognizing that life is what he makes of it. He is dabbling in different things and finding what he cares about. I love that he sets goals for himself and works hard to achieve those goals. He’s a good kid. He’s well on his way to becoming a successful adult. When the desire is there everything else falls into place. Yagottawanna!